💖 True Inner Health

True inner health begins with a deep insight:

It is vital to take care of yourself.

When you have strong self-worth, you no longer accept mistreatment. You know you deserve better, and you feel it in every cell.

You give love to others, but you also make sure to receive the same in return. You have learned to love and respect yourself.

“If you haven't learned to enjoy taking care of yourself, you will feel at home among those who don't take care of you.”

💖 The Bad Does Not Always Conceal Strength

I grew up with the expression:

“You have to experience bad things to become strong.”

But people often forget that not everyone makes it through.

Some lose the will to live. Some leave this earthly life. Trauma, mental or physical abuse leaves deep scars.

Healing requires support, safe environments, and daily processing. It also takes courage and strength to break destructive generational patterns.

Some become hardened and shut down by the difficulties they have experienced. Others get stuck in mental illness for life, carrying deep frustration that life didn't get better, despite all the struggle.

But many never received the tools.

They never learned how to set boundaries, choose healthy relationships, seek the right help, or take healthy steps forward.

Regardless of whether we grew up in a harsh or calm home, we can get stuck, lose ourselves, or remain in what harms us if we have never learned how to deal with difficult things in a healthy way.

🔥 It is not the hardship itself that makes us strong.

Strength grows when we learn to handle it better. When we gain knowledge. When we learn new things through the struggle. When we make new choices.

💖 Gratitude for what YOU made better of it, not for what harmed you

I don't agree that we should be grateful for all the bad things that have happened.

I am grateful that I managed to get through it.

I am grateful that I have taken steps forward.

I am grateful that I have made better choices.

I am grateful that I have accepted help.

I am grateful that I have continued my journey of self-development.

That is why I succeed.

It is all the choices my generation makes or made right that move us forward.

Not everyone reaches that point in their life.
Some get stuck in blockages, fears, or toxic patterns they cannot escape. Others take their own lives. If you have become stronger from what you have been through, it is because YOU have done an amazing job.

It is not a given that one becomes stronger after harmful events; it usually impacts with a very negative cost throughout one's life until healing occurs. But when you succeed, it is because YOU have developed, learned from it, chosen better, and received support.

🌱 Positive thinking must never become denial.

Thinking positively about something that is actually negative can lead to negative outcomes, because then we stay, close our eyes, or call something harmful development.

The secret is to dare to see the negative as negative, without getting stuck there.

To see the truth for what it is, do something about it, and then create a positive outcome from there.

That is true co-creative power.

✨ In Healing

Healing from childhood trauma is not just about processing the past in the inner environment.

We also need to change our external environment today.

If the surroundings continue to repeat the same behaviors, and we have not learned to set boundaries, no real healing occurs.

The healing and development we try to do internally stops in protection mode, because we are not taking responsibility for our most basic need:

to keep our body and mind safe.

When safety begins to be created again, the door to change, development, and new strength opens.

💛 It often involves:

♡ understanding your human rights

♡ strengthening your inner worth

♡ learning to recognize and address ill-health in a healthy way

♡ becoming aware of how our choices affect body and soul

We co-create our reality through our choices.

Even not choosing is a choice.

Mental health is not about learning to put up with things.

Mental health is about living with dignity, boundaries, understanding, and choices, to create better and new things.

It shows in everyday life. In which relationships you stay in. How you allow yourself to be treated. What choices you make when something is no longer healthy for you.

Small, consistent choices in daily life are often what create the biggest and most sustainable shifts.

💖 Health Down to the DNA

Epigenetics shows that we can influence how our genes are expressed.

Through a healthy internal and external environment, healing processes can be supported, while destructive stress patterns can be reduced.

When we feel good, the body's self-healing is stimulated. Oxytocin is released, the body gets better conditions for recovery, and our functions can begin to work more harmoniously.

✨ Cell biologist Bruce Lipton brings much inspiring knowledge about this.

When we instead live in long-term stress, the body produces cortisol and goes into survival mode. The immune system is affected, and the body prioritizes the most necessary functions to cope with the moment.

When we return to balance and safety, creativity, learning, healing, and the body's protective systems get better conditions.

🧬 Inner balance builds stronger health.

🧠 Becoming More Aware

The more aware we become, the clearer we see how our choices affect ourselves and others.

We understand people more deeply.

We don't excuse them, but we see that many carry blockages from several generations back. They don't know better, yet.

Awareness can create forgiveness, but it also gives us the courage to set boundaries.

We understand.

We can forgive.

But we no longer accept what harms.

We realize that love does not mean giving ourselves up for others.

No one benefits from that. Least of all our children, who need safe, mentally and spiritually healthy parents.

When we set healthy boundaries, we don't do it because we love less.

We do it because our mental health is the foundation of everything.

Without it, we eventually break down, and who we truly are risks disappearing.

💖 When you dare to put your health first, you become a role model

You show, without having to say a word, that it is possible to live healthily, with dignity, and wholeheartedly.

You become a living inspiration for others to choose their own path to health.

💖 What does healthy, strong, and conscious mental health look like?

1. You understand, address, and know how to act better in difficult situations.

2. You value yourself and set boundaries against unhealthy behaviors.

3. You know and see the difference between what good and right help looks like, and you dare to accept it.

4. You collaborate to create joy, meaning, and the vital feeling of belonging.

5. You handle your emotions healthily, understand yourself better, or process what needs healing.

6. You are not co-dependent and understand what co-dependency means.

7. You know that not choosing is also a choice.

8. You process the past so that it no longer controls the present.

9. You see and understand how you co-create in your life.

10. You know that what you accept, you will automatically get more of.

11. You know what is your responsibility, and what is not your responsibility.

12. You understand what a genuine, respectful collaboration looks like, how to build in symbiosis, and demand the same respect in return.

13. You give love, but you also demand balance in return.

14. You have learned self-worth, self-love, and self-respect.

15. You know that you are entitled to your human rights.

✨ You are always worthy of the best.

Jenny Jahn
💫 Medium, Healer & Oneness in Örebro and Sweden