💖 True Inner Health

True inner health begins with a deep insight:

It is vital to take care of yourself.

When you have strong self-worth, you no longer accept poor treatment. You know you deserve better, and you feel it in every cell.

You give love to others, but you also ensure you receive the same in return. You have learned to love and respect yourself.

“If you haven't learned to like taking care of yourself, you will feel at home among those who don't take care of you.”

💖 The bad doesn't always hide strength

I grew up with the saying:

“You have to experience bad things to become strong.”

But people often forget that not everyone makes it through.

Some lose the will to live. Some leave this earthly life. Trauma, psychological or physical abuse leaves deep scars.

To heal, support, safe environments, and daily processing are needed. It also takes courage and strength to break destructive generational patterns.

Some become hardened and shut off by the difficulties they've experienced. Others get stuck in mental illness their entire lives and carry a deep frustration that life didn't get better, despite all the struggle.

But many never got the tools.

They never learned how to set boundaries, choose good relationships, seek proper help, or take healthy steps forward.

Regardless of whether we grew up in a harsh or peaceful home, we can get stuck, lose ourselves, or remain in what harms us if we have never learned how to deal with difficult things in a healthy way.

🔥 It is not the difficult experience itself that makes us strong.

Strength grows when we learn to handle it better. When we gain knowledge. When we learn new things through struggle. When we make new choices.

💖 Gratitude for what YOU made better, not for what hurt

I don't agree that we should be grateful for all the bad things that have happened.

I am grateful that I have managed to go through it.

I am grateful that I have taken steps forward.

I am grateful that I have made better choices.

I am grateful that I have accepted help.

I am grateful that I have continued my journey of self-development.

That is why I achieve success.

It is all the right choices my generation makes that lead us forward.

Not everyone reaches that point in their life. If you have become stronger from what you've been through, it's because you've done fantastic work. You have developed, learned, chosen better, and accepted support.

🌱 Positive thinking must never become denial.

Thinking positively about something that is actually negative can lead to negative outcomes, because then we stay put, turn a blind eye, or call something harmful development.

The secret is to dare to see the negative as negative, without getting stuck there.

To see the truth for what it is, do something about it, and then create a positive outcome from there.

That is true co-creative power.

✨ In Healing

Healing from childhood trauma is not just about processing the past in the inner environment.

We also need to change our external environment today.

If our surroundings continue to repeat the same behaviors, and we haven't learned to set boundaries, no real healing occurs.

The healing and development we try to do internally halt in protective mode, because we are not taking responsibility for our most basic need:

to keep our body and mind safe.

When safety begins to be re-established, the door opens to change, development, and new strength.

💛 It often involves:

♡ understanding one's human rights

♡ strengthening one's inner worth

♡ learning to recognize and address ill-health in a healthy way

♡ becoming aware of how our choices affect body and soul

We co-create our reality through our choices.

Even not choosing is a choice.

Mental health is not about learning to endure.

Mental health is about living with dignity, boundaries, understanding, and choices, to create better and new.

This shows up in everyday life. In the relationships you stay in. How you allow yourself to be treated. The choices you make when something is no longer healthy for you.

Small, consistent choices in daily life are often what create the biggest and most sustainable shifts.

💖 Health Down to the DNA

Epigenetics shows that we can influence how our genes are expressed.

Through a healthy internal and external environment, healing processes can be supported, while destructive stress patterns can be reduced.

When we feel good, the body's self-healing is stimulated. Oxytocin is released, the body gets better conditions for recovery, and our functions can begin to work more harmoniously.

✨ Cell biologist Bruce Lipton highlights much inspiring knowledge about this.

When we instead live in long-term stress, the body produces cortisol and goes into survival mode. The immune system is affected, and the body prioritizes the most necessary functions to cope with the moment.

When we return to balance and safety, creativity, learning, healing, and the body's protective systems get better conditions.

🧬 Inner balance builds stronger health.

🧠 Becoming More Aware

The more aware we become, the clearer we see how our choices affect ourselves and others.

We understand people more deeply.

We don't excuse them, but we see that many carry blockages several generations back. They don't know better, yet.

Awareness can create forgiveness, but it also gives us the courage to set boundaries.

We understand.

We can forgive.

But we no longer accept what harms.

We realize that love does not mean giving up ourselves for others.

No one benefits from that. Least of all our children, who need secure, mentally and spiritually healthy parents.

When we set healthy boundaries, we don't do it because we love less.

We do it because our mental health is the foundation of everything.

Without it, we eventually break down, and who we truly are risks disappearing.

💖 When you dare to put your health first, you become a role model

You show, without having to say a word, that it is possible to live healthily, with dignity, and wholeheartedly.

You become a living inspiration for others to choose their own path to health.

💖 What does healthy, strong, and conscious mental health look like?

1. You understand, address, and know how to act better in difficult situations.

2. You value yourself and set boundaries against unhealthy behaviors.

3. You know and see the difference between what good and right help looks like, and you dare to accept it.

4. You collaborate to create joy, meaning, and the vital feeling of belonging.

5. You handle your emotions healthily, understand yourself better, or process what needs healing.

6. You are not codependent and understand what codependency means.

7. You know that not choosing is also a choice.

8. You process the past so that it no longer controls the present.

9. You see and understand how you co-create in your life.

10. You know that what you accept, you will automatically get more of.

11. You know what is your responsibility, and what is not your responsibility.

12. You understand what a genuine, respectful collaboration looks like, how to build in symbiosis, and demand the same respect back.

13. You give love, but you also demand balance in return.

14. You have learned self-worth, self-love, and self-respect.

15. You know you are entitled to your human rights.

✨ You are always worth the best.

Jenny Jahn
💫 Medium, healer & Oneness in Örebro and Sweden